How I wish church leaders responded to questions (Day 6)

I wish leaders understood better what advocates are trying to accomplish when we ask for more information or question their decisions. We are a part of the community. We are not trying to bring it down or hurt you. We are trying to make sure victims of abuse are helped and further abuse is prevented. In today’s world, we have seen too many tragic news stories to take this as a given. (... read more ...)

Investigating the truth is hard (Day 5)

The last movie I watched before lockdown was Knives Out, which is a very good murder mystery movie (97% on Rotten Tomatoes). I’m glad I got to see it because the other two movies I watched were mildly disappointing (Little Women) and devastatingly, depressingly, life-alteringly bad (The Rise of Skywalker), so it was nice to end on a good note. Sometimes advocacy feels like being in a murder mystery. Someone in this room murdered Mr. (... read more ...)

October 9, 2020 dailies church abuse advocacy

How bias makes leaders ignore allegations (Day 4)

Excuses leaders make when declining to investigate abuse or respond to victims and advocates: a list. If you’ve been a victim or advocate in church abuse, you’ve almost certainly been on the receiving end of one or more of these. It sounds like a playbook, but it isn’t. It’s just human nature. And you know what that means? (... read more ...)

The church has a problem with teen girls—why? (Day 3)

Let’s talk. Why do Christians have such a negative view of teen girls? (... read more ...)

What does it mean to humanize abusers? (Day 2)

Before the “monstrous” abuser who demands and takes by force is the person who lies and takes by deceit… and before that, the person who manipulates and guilt trips and nags… What else do we accept as normal? (... read more ...)

October 6, 2020 dailies

Daily Roundup Experiment: Day 1

Ravi Zacharias, investigations–internal, investigations–independent, hoping and waiting, spiritual bypassing, endorsements & silence, Tedd Tripp, terrible parenting advice, don’t spank babies (... read more ...)